Relationship Discussion Questions:

 

Cultural Belief #1

 

Sexual expression outside of marriage is fine if the couple loves each other.

 

Brotherly (Friendship) Love or Romantic Love

 

______ Buy a gift for them?

 

______ Help them wash their car?

 

______ Say, “I love you”? 

 

______ Pay for dinner?

 

______ Hold hands?

 

______ Listen to them when they are hurting?

 

______ Encourage them to reach their goals?

 

______ Kiss them?

 

______ Say, “I am sorry”?

 

______ Meet their family ?

 

______ Hug them?

 

______ Give up your time to help them with something?

 

______ Make out with them?

 

______ Send them flowers?

 

______ Touch their face?

 

 

 

LOVE                                                          RISKS

 

1.                                                           1.

 

2.                                                           2.

 

3.                                                           3.

 

4.                                                           4.

 

5.                                                           5.

 

 

 

Compare the Love & Risk columns and determine if Cultural Belief #1 is accurate

 

 

 

Cultural Belief #2

 

Living together is the same as being married and may in fact be a good way to see if a marriage will work.

 

 

 

Performance Based Relationships: _________________________________________________________

 

 

 

Acceptance Based Relationships:

 

 

 

What are the pros & cons of living together before getting married?

 

 

 

 

 

Cultural Belief #3

 

Practicing sex outside of marriage or before marriage helps establish a good sexual relationship in marriage.

 

 

 

Chemistry of sexual expression:

 

 

 

_____________ +  ______________ =  ____________________

 

 

 

Cultural Belief #4

 

The greatest most fulfilling sex is found when single

 

 

 

Top five qualities you desire in a marriage       Setting Boundaries

 

1.                                                                            1.

 

2.                                                                            2.

 

3.                                                                            3.

 

4.                                                                            4.

 

 

The Whole Person in Six Parts

 

 

1.

 

2.

 

3.

 

4.

 

5.

 

6.

 

 

 

Your personal strengths: _______________________________

 

 

 

 

Your personal hurts (optional): ___________________________

 

 

 

Personal Assessment Line (Optional)

 

 

__________________________________________________________________________________________

 

1    2    3    4    5   6    7    8    9   10   11    12    13   14    15    16    17   18

 

 

 

Intimacy Levels:

 

 

 

Lowest           Low           Moderate             High                 Highest

 

 

____________   ____________  __________

 

 

 

 

 

Relationship Storms: _______________________________________

 

 

 

 

I would like to see some growth or change in the following area of my relationships:

 

 

 

 

What skills do you think are necessary to resolve conflict in a healthy way